Some people hate… I want to motivate


 This week I had an incident happen in the gym that I wanted to write about because not only did it annoy me (a lot) but it also got me thinking about how important it is to not let other people’s negative comments detract you in any way from your goals, whether it be in training or any other aspect in your life.

I was sitting in the changing room at my gym after a great training session and was basking  in the after glow of my endorphin high when a woman came up and pinched my arm and blurted out to me “Why haven’t you put on any muscle yet?  The way you train you should have some muscles and definition by now.”  

BAM – talk about cutting me down and making me feel like crap!

I have been training hard for the last three months and have made really good progress during that time, I am stronger and fitter than I have ever been and yet all that effort and dedication was shot down by the gym ‘know it all’ (who actually knows nothing) with a throw away comment.  I thought I was being overly sensitive at being offended by this but judging by the looks of shock I was getting in the changing room it was obvious this woman had over stepped the mark.  My immediate response was to punch her in the face, or teep her in the stomach but it’s a good thing I didn’t as that would really mess up my training schedule if I was banned from the gym for fighting.  So my response was to let her know that I was training for an event and not for muscular development.  Did this shut her up?  No, she then proceeded to insult me again by ridiculing the event I was doing by which point I gave her one of my evil monkey stares and she decided to wander off.

This isn’t the first time I’ve had people in the gym pass judgement on me, and it most certainly isn’t going to be the last.  What I have learnt over the years is not to let negative people dump their toxic thoughts onto you and make you doubt yourself.  We all have our own goals we are trying to reach, some of us may progress at a slower pace than others but progress is still progress.

So the moral to this post is to ignore negative people and don’t let them affect what you are trying to achieve.  Try to stay focused on your fitness journey.  Some days the path will be smooth, other days you will encounter bumps in the road that may set you back a little. Whatever happens never give up.

I will leave you with this quote and I wish you well on your journey whatever it may be.





  1. Way to keep your cool and be the bigger person! There will always be haters. *sigh*

    1. Thank you. I think some people need to mind their own business and focus on their own! 🙂

  2. Stuart Danker · · Reply

    Hi! First of all, I’m sorry for hijacking this thread because I couldn’t find your e-mail or contact, and you’re the most active and current person I’ve been able to find regarding Sinbi Muay Thai.

    I was wondering, do they provide shinguards and gloves there? I plan to buy my gear there (and also not lug around all that weight on my way there) so I was wondering if they had gym shinguards/gloves at least until I get a scooter or find my way to the fight shop. Thanks! Nice write ups about Sinbi!

    1. Hi Stuart

      Sorry for the delay in replying, no need to apologise about hijacking my post! Sinbi has a shop in the camp and you can get absolutely everything there that you need. They have tons of gloves that people can borrow, but personally I would buy kit rather than borrow. When are you going to train at Sinbi?

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